The Meaning of Great and Grand
Jeremy Tio
Son of Helen Tio, Fung Hung Lan ˇ¦69
Often the great and grand people of the world
are associated with conquerors, titans, royalty : the powerful. In most worldly
aspects, great grand mother was none of these things but she is most deserving
of such a title and our greatest respect.
Without a doubt, she was a very special person. Being born in the
beginning of the century (1906), as a farmer, she had little material wealth or
status, losing her father at an early age, and losing her husband soon after
marriage. Still, what she lacked in youth she earned in maturity, sustaining
and serving her only daughter, her six grandchildren, her thirteen great
grandchildren, her extended family and our dear friends. As a result, she
always has a sense of peace and contentment; a bench mark of a well lived, long
life.
Although outgoing in her duties to her family,
she seemed quite reserved in her personal life. As a result, not all of us knew
her in a very personal way. Recently, she gave me a small necklace, a piece of
the small amount of jewelry she has ever owned. Written on the necklace is a poetic verse about the moon being
perfect and heart being pure. At the time, I did not appreciate it, priding
myself on being too practical for baubles. I believe that her intention was to
teach me an important lesson, by revealing herself in a special way: A way that
should be shared with all that she has ever cared for, that one so ancient,
over almost a century of change, hardship, and pain could sustain the heart of
a romantic.
Still, it is difficult to accept the fact that I canˇ¦t see her anymore,
to hear her simile and greeting, a warmth that transcended all age, language or
culture barriers. When I was young, I used to live with her, she was my
ˇ§nannyˇ¨. I have a lot of fond memories of her, such as her zeal when watching
professional wrestling on TV. Despite her gentleness, she had the resilient and
sharp character of a fighter. Throughout her youth and middle life, she toiled
endlessly with little in return. She did not give up. Even in an advanced age
that some of us will never know, she endured the pain and failures of her body,
with a clear mind. And in her last days, none can deny her grace or the
strength of her heart.
While we mourn the fact that a most humble, gentle and giving person has
left this world, we are most fortunate to have known her. Three generation of
her children are in debt to her generosity. Truly, she has set a shining
example of service to family, humility, courage and love to any one who really
knew her. We should realize that these qualities and values, so scarce in our
age, were carried for many years by great grandmother. May we renew ourselves
with such virtues, as we celebrate the time ˇ§A Bakˇ¨ spent with us and reflect
on what it means to be Great and Grand.
By Great grandson Jeremy Tio
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